Directness reduces ambiguity. Harshness adds damage.
Harsh people often call themselves direct because it sounds principled. In practice, they add contempt, impatience, or performance to a message that only needed clarity.
Direct language names the fact, the standard, the impact, and the request. It does not prosecute character. It does not add theatrical force so the speaker can feel brave.
Operator artifact: draft hard messages in four lines: observed fact, expected standard, operating impact, requested next action. Cut adjectives about the person.
Field test: Say the hard thing once, cleanly, without the extra force.
This is part 2 of 10 in Conflict Without Damage.
