Dr. Cameron Sepah is a clinical psychologist, executive coach, and professor at UCSF Medical School, known for his work with high-performing executives, entrepreneurs, and investors. He integrates Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), evolutionary psychology, and evidence-based practices to address modern challenges in performance, health, and masculinity. His concept of "Dopamine Fasting" has gained significant media attention.
On Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) & The Mind
- "Psychological flexibility is the ability to feel and think with openness, and attend voluntarily to your experience of the present moment, in the service of your chosen values."
- Source: His general definition of ACT's core goal.
- Learning: The aim isn't to eliminate negative thoughts or feelings, but to develop the flexibility to move toward what matters even when they are present.
- "You are not your thoughts, you are the sky, and your thoughts are the weather."
- Source: A common ACT metaphor he uses.
- Learning: This illustrates cognitive defusion—the practice of observing your thoughts without getting swept away by them. You are the context, not the content.
- "Motivation follows action. Don't wait to feel like it."
- Source: Twitter/X Post
- Learning: This is a core principle of behavioral activation. Instead of waiting for motivation to strike, taking a small, value-driven action is often the catalyst for generating it.
- "Values are not goals. Values are a direction, a verb. Goals are a destination, a noun."
- Source: Standard ACT teaching, heavily used by Dr. Sepah in coaching.
- Learning: You can never "achieve" a value like "being a loving partner," you can only act in ways consistent with it. This makes a rich life accessible in any moment, regardless of goal attainment.
- "The goal is not to control your thoughts and feelings, but to stop letting them control you."
- Source: A fundamental principle of ACT.
- Learning: The struggle to suppress unwanted internal experiences often amplifies them. Acceptance allows you to move forward without them being an obstacle.
- "Willingness is opening yourself up to the full range of human experience, even the painful parts, in order to live a life aligned with your values."
- Source: His explanation of the "Acceptance" pillar in ACT.
- "Your mind is a sense organ, not a truth detector."
- Source: Twitter/X Post
- Learning: Thoughts are simply internal events, not necessarily accurate reflections of reality. Don't automatically believe everything you think.
- "Commitment is doing what it takes to live your values, even when it's hard."
- Source: The "Commitment" part of ACT.
On "Dopamine Fasting" and Behavioral Health
- "Dopamine Fasting is not about reducing dopamine, but about reducing the impulsive behaviors that are stimulated by it."
- Source: Dopamine Fasting 2.0: The Complete Guide
- Link: LinkedIn Article
- Learning: This is the most misunderstood aspect. It's a behavioral therapy technique (stimulus control) to manage problematic, pleasure-seeking behaviors, not a literal fast from a neurotransmitter.
- "We are conditioned to seek pleasure to avoid pain, but modern pleasures are often unhealthy coping mechanisms."
- Source: Dopamine Fasting 2.0: The Complete Guide
- Link: LinkedIn Article
- Learning: The Six Compulsive Behaviors. Dopamine Fasting specifically targets: emotional eating, excessive internet/gaming, gambling/shopping, porn/masturbation, thrill/novelty seeking, and recreational drugs.
- Source: Dopamine Fasting 2.0: The Complete Guide
- "The point of Dopamine Fasting is to create a space for boredom and loneliness to arise, so you can learn to deal with them more skillfully."
- Source: Explanations in various podcast interviews.
- Learning: By removing easy distractions, you are forced to confront the underlying discomfort that drives impulsive behaviors.
- "Fasting is a form of exposure therapy to the feeling of missing out (FOMO)."
- Source: Paraphrased from his guide.
- "By taking a break from our vices, they become less powerful and we regain control over our choices."
- Source: Dopamine Fasting 2.0: The Complete Guide
- "You can 'fast' from a behavior for a few hours, a day, or a weekend. The goal is to create intentional abstinence to reset your habits."
- Source: Dopamine Fasting 2.0: The Complete Guide
On Healthy Masculinity
- "Healthy masculinity is not about being a 'real man,' but about being a good man."
- Source: A central theme in his work on masculinity.
- Link: YouTube - What is Healthy Masculinity?
- "The antidote to toxic masculinity is not no masculinity, but healthy masculinity."
- Source: Twitter/X Post
- Learning: He argues against the idea that masculinity is inherently toxic, instead promoting a model based on virtues and positive contribution.
- Learning: The 5 Virtues of Healthy Masculinity. His model includes: Agency (proactivity, accountability), Strength (physical, mental, emotional), Honor (integrity, loyalty), Mastery (competence, discipline), and Legacy (generativity, protecting/providing for others).
- Source: His article on Medium
- "Emotional stoicism is not emotional suppression. It's the ability to regulate your emotions so you can act effectively, especially under pressure."
- Source: His article on Medium
- Learning: He distinguishes between suppressing feelings (unhealthy) and mastering them to serve a higher purpose (healthy).
- "A man's primary duty is to his chosen purpose and the people he has committed to protect and provide for."
- Source: Reflects his views on the "Legacy" virtue.
- "Stop apologizing for being a man. Start aspiring to be a good one."
- Source: A recurring sentiment in his social media posts.
- "True strength is not the absence of vulnerability, but the courage to act in spite of it."
- Source: His interpretation of the "Strength" virtue.
- "Hold yourself and other men to a higher standard. That's what honor means."
- Source: His interpretation of the "Honor" virtue.
On Performance, Entrepreneurship, and Executive Health
- "The highest performers are not grinders, they are strategists. They manage their energy, not just their time."
- Source: A core part of his executive coaching.
- Learning: Sustainable high performance comes from strategic rest and recovery, not just working more hours.
- "Burnout is not a badge of honor. It's a sign of a poorly designed system."
- Source: His coaching philosophy.
- "Your body is the foundation of your performance. Sleep, nutrition, and exercise are non-negotiable."
- Source: The Executive Health Playbook
- Link: Website Article
- "Anxiety is a feature, not a bug, of high performance. It means you care. The key is to harness it, not eliminate it."
- Source: Common coaching advice.
- "Imposter syndrome is a sign that you are pushing yourself to the edge of your competence. Reframe it as a signal of growth."
- Source: A common reframing he uses in therapy and coaching.
- "Get a coach. The best athletes in the world have coaches. Why do you think you don't need one?"
- Source: Advocating for his own profession as a key performance tool.
- "Success is not about avoiding failure, but about becoming more resilient to it."
- Source: Standard ACT/CBT principle applied to performance.
- "Saying 'no' is a superpower for productive people. It's about protecting your focus and energy for what truly matters."
- Source: Productivity advice for executives.
On Health, Diet, and Fitness
- "The best diet is the one you can stick to. The best exercise is the one you actually do."
- Source: A pragmatic approach to health.
- Learning: Adherence and consistency trump theoretical perfection.
- Learning: The 3 Pillars of Health. Dr. Sepah consistently emphasizes Sleep, Nutrition, and Exercise as the foundational pillars that support mental and physical health.
- Source: The Executive Health Playbook
- "Fasting is a hormetic stressor. It makes your body more resilient by exposing it to a mild, temporary challenge."
- Source: His writing on intermittent fasting.
- "Prioritize protein. It is the most satiating macronutrient and essential for building and maintaining muscle, which is critical for metabolic health."
- Source: Common nutritional advice he provides.
- Link: Twitter/X Post on Diet
- "Lift heavy things. Resistance training is the single most important form of exercise for longevity and healthspan."
- Source: A strong and consistent message in his health advice.
- "Sleep is not a luxury; it is a biological necessity. Skimping on sleep is like taking out a high-interest loan on your health."
- Source: The Executive Health Playbook
- "Your environment dictates your behavior. If you want to change your habits, change your environment first."
- Source: Behavioral principle applied to health (e.g., don't keep junk food in the house).
- "Walk more. It's the most underrated form of exercise."
- Source: The Executive Health Playbook
- "Sunlight is a nutrient. Get it on your skin and in your eyes, especially in the morning, to anchor your circadian rhythm."
- Source: Health advice from his playbook.
Additional Quotes and Learnings
- "Get off Twitter and into the gym." - A blunt call to action over intellectualization.
- "Discipline is a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it gets."
- "True confidence is quiet. Insecurity is loud."
- "You can't pour from an empty cup. Self-care is a prerequisite for caring for others."
- "Boredom is the crucible of creativity."
- "The obstacle is the way." - Quoting Stoicism, which aligns closely with ACT.
- "Don't just track your metrics, track your values. Are you living the life you want to live?"
- "Your attention is your most valuable currency. Spend it wisely."
- "Instead of work-life balance, aim for work-life integration. Your work should be an expression of your values, not a departure from them."
- "Ultimately, it's all about behavior. What are you going to do?" - The final, action-oriented question that underpins his entire philosophy.
